Do you know how difficult it is for us adults to convey our emotions (feelings) in a semi-appropriate manner? Now imagine that you are a little kid or even a young teen who is trying to translate feelings into words and actions. Throw in hormonal changes that are "normal" as we continue to develop and grow and you have one hot mess. This is even more prominent when we come from a place where our parents are divorced, separated or in the process of either. School is getting even more challenging and let's not forget the good old-fashioned peer pressure and bullying, sports events, studying, sexual identity & gender questions and any one of a million other factors that impact our ability to express our feelings in an appropriate manner!
No wonder, our kids don't know how to express themselves. But have no fear, Super-dupper therapist mom is here (I know, that was slightly over-the-top, but you get the drift). We can help support healthy feeling expression when our little ones are developing. Let's start with the little ones:
A VERY VERY VERY important thing to keep in mind when working on this is that we CANNOT begin practicing this when our kid is having a meltdown! All you do is set yourself up for failure. We begin practicing when things are going good and we go from there. Stay tuned for more tips and tricks in the future.
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I find that one of the hardest things for me to do with my kids is to be mindful. That is why I ask them the same question repeatedly- I wasn’t paying attention when they answered. In my own defense, I have to be mindful and completely tuned into those that seek my help professionally on an almost daily basis, so when I get home, I become easily distracted. You can relate to that right?
Mindfulness is “paying attention to the present moment on purpose, without judgment.” You can do this with any activity, at any time. For instance, when washing the dishes, don’t think about your to-do list. “Just pay attention to the sensory experience” of doing the dishes. When playing with your child, focus on the experience of being with them. I promise (well, not literally) that you will have a completely different experience and feel like a better parent and person for that.
I often suggest that my clients try some form of breathing exercise much like the link provided: breathing exercise . These can be done once in the morning and once during the day, along with this body scan as you lie down to sleep. Try setting your alarm 5 minutes earlier so that you can start out your day in a good way!
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As much as we love the idea of taking care of our kiddos (feeding them, cleaning up after them and acting as the mediator) the school year (for many) is beginning. This symbolizes an increase in stress. The chaos of working (whether you are paid to or not) and taking care of the on-going daily chores, trying to figure out everyone’s schedules for after-school and sports activities, not to mention the stress of NOT understanding your kids homework. Like, I have a Master’s Degree and can’t figure out what half of the math homework is even talking about! Have no fear, therapist mama is here! Below, I have some tips of the trade that I have gathered over the many years of being a stressed out, hair-pulling mama (yes, therapists are allowed to pull our hair too). So let’s get started:
1. Practice self-care in intervals.
For instance, take 15 minutes for yourself, twice a day. This does not mean, doing the laundry, cleaning the floors or anything else. This means taking 15 minutes to feel the breeze on your skin, the sun warming you, or just enjoy those really neat cricket noises that always symbolize (for me) that autumn is coming.
2. Ask for – imperfect – help.
Sometimes self-care means accepting imperfect help from someone you trust, who might feed them junk food, or let them watch too much TV, or simply do things differently than you do. That is okay. Just breathe and enjoy the time that the “imperfect” help is giving you!
3. Say yes.
Just like it’s often healthy to say “NO” to some people, it can also be very self-nurturing to say “YES” to someone else. Offer to proofread your friend’s resume, give someone a ride or make a meal for a family who needs it. It is good Karma. This is creating a deliberate distraction to connect you with other people and remind you of the good you do in the world outside your home. Plus, it helps you reconnect with the other parts of yourself, you know, the ones that we forget exist when we become a mom!
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Samantha Mahon, M.S.,NCC,LPC
Samantha is a proactive and practical parenting expert. She is a Board Certified Counselor and she uses her knowledge of psychotherapy combined with her own personal and professional experiences to bring you the real-life options as parents.