Getting yourself emotionally prepared for the start of the school year is a STRUGGLE. I mean, who is ready to start those crack of dawn wake-up battles with your kids or to wake up every morning wondering if your college kid actually went to his/her early morning class anyway? Whether you are hounding at a teenager to get their little happy asses out of bed (as they glare at you right before throwing something at the door that you just opened) or you are bribing your elementary kids to eat a healthy breakfast as they run circles around the kitchen table fighting over who gets to sit where and who gets to have their breakfast served first- all while we are doing lamaze breathing to keep ourselves semi-sane and yes, all BEFORE our first cup of coffee- and that is just the kids. Let’s not forget that we still have to (for working parents) get ourselves ready and out the door while we draw swords and battle against the kids for the right to eat…..the struggle is real and it is about to begin, my people.
So, as parents what strategies have you put in place to keep yourself sane in the mornings? As you read the tips that I have collected below, you may think to yourself- “well, shit...I already do all of that so now what?”. Remember that we can always approach things differently, even if it is the same “thing” we were doing before. We can come at things from a different perspective by shifting the way we become aware of things. So, here is a list of everyday tricks of the trade from a working mom who has “been there, done that...and more”. Some of these tips may not apply to you or your situation and that is cool too! Take what helps and leave what doesn’t…...
Now comes my fav part of this…..when you are struggling to keep yourself sane when school starts, it is time to think about what barriers are presenting themselves in your life….enter the awesome idea of counseling/therapy. Counseling can give us an opportunity to dig into those underlying beliefs that impact who we are as parents and how we respond/react to stress. Hell, sometimes we just need someone else to tell us that it is okay to do something nice for ourselves. As a therapist, I often use the oxygen mask analogy- the one where the flight attendant is very dramatically miming through some preset speech over the intercom about the importance of putting an oxygen mask on ourselves first...BEFORE..the plane crashes aka-.helping others. Do you do this in your life? Do you take care of yourself first before taking care of your kids, spouse, significant other, teammates, co-workers and anyone else that we believe “should” take priority over our own well-being? If you do then that is awesome and you are a badass. If you don’t then it may be time to start understanding why everyone else’s needs take priority over yours!
If you would like to know more about how counseling can help you work through stress, manage your life in your terms and/or help you put on that oxygen mask then feel free to give us a call at (919) 335-3105 or email us at email@example.com. We accept most major insurances!
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Samantha Mahon, M.S.,NCC, LPC
Samantha is usually the driver of the struggle bus but also thoroughly enjoys being a passenger on someone else's struggle bus.