We wear 50 hats all in one day. Have you ever thought about how much work we, women, actually due in any given day? We truly are woman warriors! As a business owner, mother of two teenagers and having been married now for roughly 20-ish years, I am still amazed that I have not gone completely bonkers nor have I pulled out all of my hair or done any permanent damage to my kids or husband (I plead the fifth on the last one). The ability to wear 50 hats at any given time is a trait that is special to women. We are able to juggle full-time (plus, plus) careers, be the housekeeper, master chef, project management coordinator, tutor, taxi driver and any of the other million things that we do in any given day. Have you ever wondered what gives us the ability to do this? Most of us can say that I have learned the art of multi-tasking as that is one common trait related to being a mom. One must be resilient and able to give it their all on a daily basis but sometimes we hit the wall. We become cranky, irritated, frustrated, biting everyone’s head off, losing things and many more signs are there that we have, indeed, hit the wall.
For me, I know that I have hit the wall when I start losing everything or when I try opening my mailbox with my USB drive instead of my key…literally this has happened to me or that moment when you are in the car in a traffic jam and realize that you forgot to brush your teeth. These have been my own personal signs that I am over-worked and under-appreciated (imagine that!). When this happens, I take a step back, hide out somewhere or even take a few hours to regroup myself emotionally. We are allowed to take a time-out from our lives. We deserve this. Maybe you go get a facial, go for a walk, stalk strangers on Facebook (I do not recommend this one…), get a haircut or read a book- one commonality is that we take the time to take care of ourselves. In my therapy practice, I specialize in working with women and one of the things I tell people time and time again is this “if mom is not good, the kids and partner are not good”. You wouldn’t expect a car to keep running on zero gas through the mountains, so why do we expect to keep going when we need to fill our own tanks with some self-love?
Take time to fill your tank with things that make you who you are-a unique and fantastic woman warrior. For more information regarding the benefits of counseling services, please visit our website at www.peakprofessionalgroup.com
About this Woman Warrior!
Samantha Afanador is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the proud owner of a private counseling practice in Apex, North Carolina Peak Professional Group. She has over 20 years of experience in the mental health field and has been a woman warrior since the very tender age of 16 when she first stood up for women's rights in the Dominican Republic. She has played many roles in her life and uses her sense of humor, authentic projection of herself and her clinical knowledge to support and mentor those around her.