At Peak Professional Group, one of the most common reasons that women seek out therapy is because they have experienced some sort of emotional, verbal, sexual or physical abuse in a current or past relationship. That experience can define the person in their present reality and also in their future relationships with others. In this blog edition we are going to concentrate on and briefly highlight what an abusive relationship can look like:
* Does your partner ever….
> Embarrass you with put-downs?
> Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
> Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
> Push you, slap you, choke you or hit you?
> Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
> Control the money in the relationship? Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
> Make all of the decisions?
> Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away your children?
> Prevent you from working or attending school?
> Act like the abuse is no big deal, deny the abuse or tell you it’s your own fault?
> Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
> Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
> Attempt to force you to drop criminal charges?
> Threaten to commit suicide, or threaten to kill you?
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. In this section, you’ll find more information on the types of abuse, why people abuse and why it’s so difficult to leave. Don’t hesitate to chat or call (1-800-799-SAFE) if anything you read raises a red flag about your own relationship or that of someone you know (information taken from http://www.nrcdv.org/dvam/ , please see this site for more information).
Sometimes the abuse is more subtle but still abusive in nature. For example, if your partner holds back affection or emotional responses as a way to “punish” you, then you may be in a relationship that is not very healthy. If this is the case, you can give us a call at 919-412-5685 to receive the emotional support that you need to find your voice.